I've had a bad case of writer's block this summer when it comes to my blog. Almost everyday I sit down at my computer and the words won't come. I'm still feeling and living and experiencing, but all the words seem to be in a jumbled up mess swirling about in my head. I still have so much summer stuff to post, but school starts tomorrow and when that happens it just seems a little silly to still be posting about summer stuff. But that's they way it'll have to be, I guess...especially since I'm kind of OCD and I'm not sure I can just
not post about the stuff we did last week.
But you're gonna have to wait.
Because tomorrow is the first day of school.
And my baby goes to kindergarten.
And I found some words.
Really, there are two (emotional) parts to Phoebe going to kindergarten. The first is dealing with Phoebe, my baby girl, going to kindergarten. She's so big and bold and ready and I'm just flat-out not ready. But it's my nature to just put my big girl panties on and deal with it. It isn't as if talking about it over and over and over again or crying about it is going to change things. Part of the "mom" condition is watching your children walk away. It's the way the whole system was designed. It's still hard and my heart still hurts, but it's still gonna happen. The second emotional part has to do with being a whole new kind of mommy. I'm not the mom to young children anymore. The toddler years have gone. I can't have any more and I'm nervous about who that makes me as a mom now and what role do I play and dealing with the feelings of not being needed in the same role anymore. There aren't handbooks for this and even if there were, I probably wouldn't fit them anyway! I'll figure it out, I'm sure (what other choice do I have?) and there might even be more posts...as long as I can still find my words.
But that wasn't even what I wanted to write about tonight. I found
THIS article while on Facebook this afternoon. It's beautiful and simple and wonderful...and it made me want to write letters to my children. But because it's 8:30 on the night before school, I settled with telling them these things as I tucked them into bed. But then I figured I could write them here and maybe some day they'll get to read them again.
So here goes...
Dear Phoebe,
Tomorrow you are starting kindergarten!
You have waited and waited for this day while I've mostly dreaded it and not wanted to talk about it. It's hard for a mommy to let go when it's time, but I know it will be wonderful for you because of who you are. I have prayed that God has filled you up through your dad and I and the people around you, that you are so full of Him that it just runs over and spills out onto everyone who gets near you. That you have found your identity in Him so that you don't get lost in the big, bad world searching for who you really are.
There's a light and a sparkle about you that God has great plans for. I pray that you have eyes that see those He puts in front of you and a heart that's tender enough to hurt for them. You have an amazing capacity to hear music and a reason to celebrate in all circumstances and I hope you continue to hear it and feel it...especially at school.
Selfishly, I pray that God protects you and your heart. I want this year to be good. I want you to find some good friends. I want everyday to be a good one. But I also know that you're in this time and this place because God wants you here. Whatever happens, He will love you more than I ever could...and I love you an awful lot!
Remember that you can do hard things and to be loving always.
I love you and you're my best girl,
Mommy
Dear Eli,
Third Grade.
It's a big year. There will be so much to learn...both academically and socially. I know you aren't as excited about tomorrow as your sister. You're a little older. You know that with the start of school comes lots of early mornings and lots of structure and lots of hard work. It's different for you.
But I'm praying for you. I pray that God can find a way to focus that stubborn spirit and warrior heart He gave you onto what is true and what is righteous. I pray that I remember that God gave them to you and He entrusted you to me for a reason, even when I want to bang my head on the wall in frustration! You are strong and you are fierce and I pray that God reveals to you who He wants you to protect and love this year at school. I pray that you know who you are in Him and that being who you need to be takes a lot of work and mistakes and choices every single day. You are up to the challenge and I pledge to you that I am, too. We are in this together and God gave us each other for reasons that I cannot fathom, but make sense to Him, and we need to remember that.
You are my heart. "Whatever souls are made of, yours and mine are the same".
Remember that we can do hard things and to be loving always.
I love you more than Sonic Diet Cokes with lime and extra ice,
Mom